I'm in a mood to basically just vent!!
If you know me....you know I have an amazing family! I have the best husband a girl could ask for, and I have an awesome daughter as well!! Unfortunately my husband is not my daughter's biological father....and this is where the venting starts!
I had my daughter when I was 23 years old. I wasn't "too young" but I certainly wasn't old enough to "know better". I got married pretty much right out of high school, and settled down. It was ROUGH! Very rough! But I pushed through. I pushed through finding women's underwear in my couch!!! I pushed through finding other women's phone numbers in my husband's wallet. I even pushed through him leaving me home pregnant and sick to "go buy a hammer" (aka...see the girl at the hardware store). What the fuck is wrong with me to stick around through all this??? Well, I was pregnant, and I worked at Walmart. I knew I couldn't do it on my own.
So, I stuck it out for as long as I could. My daughter was born, and things were going okay. Then when she was about 15 months old....I couldn't take the fighting and chaos anymore! I gave him an ultimatum that things had to change or I would leave. Needless to say, he chose to not even speak to me about it...so I left! Thankfully I had my parents to help me out! I moved back home with my sweet little girl, and they supported me immensely.
Ok....sorry, I had to preface this whole venting session! :) So, I became a single mom. I worked, went back to college, and eventually moved out on my own. Did I make some unwise choices? Absolutely! But I pushed through and made sacrifices so my daughter was ALWAYS taken care of.
Anyway...her father (aka...sperm donor) was ordered to pay $350 child support monthly. Seriously....that's it! So he's always been inconsistent. Oh, he's also ordered to provide health insurance for her too! HAH!
So, last year, when she was 10 years old, I decided that I was going to get an individual insurance policy on her, since he didn't have any insurance. I told him that since he was responsible to provide her insurance, he should give me the money I'm putting out. He agreed (amazingly)....but then he 'lost his job' and couldn't give me any money. Not only that....he didn't pay child support then either!
So, here we are nearly a year later. I have paid ever penny towards her health insurance premium, paid every co-pay, paid her deductible, and have yet to receive a penny from him. He had got caught up on child support...but has now fallen behind again. I am beyond frustrated that nearly every single dollar I have received for child support has gone towards health insurance, co-pays, and deductibles. I'm not even joking!! All of it! So what exactly is the point of child support? I get that I should provide for her too! And I do! She doesn't go without! I sometimes wish he would just sign his rights over and go away! This frustration is more than I can take!
So, today I just needed to vent that children are EXPENSIVE! I just want what is supposed to be done, to be done! Pay for her health insurance and pay your child support!!!
Needless to say, I sent him a message questioning about child support and money....so I'm sure that I will get a not so nice message back! Oh well....take care of your daughter that you helped create!!
